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How to fall in love
Notes from a quasi-journalistic, occasionally poignant, deeply subjective investigation into love, jazz, and toast crumbs in the butter
Mar 24, 2025
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A series of small humiliations
On illness, only-childhood, and the limits of self-sufficiency (or: everything is copy, until it's not)
Feb 13
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Advice for someone whose best friend suddenly disappeared
A reader asks about jealousy, abandonment, and why friendship breakups hurt worse than romantic ones
Dec 10, 2025
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What do women want?
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Everything I don't know about love
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We regret to inform you this is a relationship
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Maybe you’re not ready either
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He has to be tall and also emotionally literate
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Advice for me and my single friends
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The houseboat psychic will see you now
Or: a short story about a true encounter with a Welshman named Gwydion (and everything he taught me about love, time, and getting older)
Dec 4, 2025
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Advice for someone who might die alone
Or: why women aren’t afraid of being alone—but men are afraid they are
Nov 27, 2025
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A night off from myself
On heartbreak, hedonism and the healing power of behaving badly by doing everything wrong on purpose
Nov 19, 2025
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Advice for me and my single friends
Answering a reader’s letter about love, friendship, and the strange loneliness of happiness
Nov 5, 2025
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If you're going to break my heart, I may as well make the most of it
On heartbreak, Lily Allen’s West End Girl, and the very feminine art of making art from pain
Nov 3, 2025
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Only uncool losers fall in love
On how romance has lost its cool, love became cringe, and why admitting you have a boyfriend is kind of weird
Oct 22, 2025
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Who wants to snog me in the designated smoking area tonight
A pub-going participant-observer’s guide to lust, lager and late-night longing in London
Oct 6, 2025
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You love me and it's fucking weird
An investigation into the fear of the other shoe dropping, Paul Mescal, and other reasons we love badly
Sep 30, 2025
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Everything I don't know about love
On toothpaste kisses, wrong definitions, and everything six strangers, friends, and exes don't know either
Sep 22, 2025
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