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Unfucking Midlife: Turning 46
On mortality, grey hair, and the freedom that comes from finally not giving a fuck
Feb 11
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Ashley Kelsch
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You Don't Have a Drinking Problem. You Have an Aliveness Problem.
I’ve watched this pattern play out over and over…
Feb 4
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Safety Was What I Needed. I Just Didn't Know How to Get It.
A story about what happens when your nervous system mistakes wine for safety.
Jan 28
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Ashley Kelsch
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Unfucking Midlife: The Strength in Unfolding
Because some parts of us don't need fixing, they just need space.
Jan 23
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Ashley Kelsch
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They Absolutely Care That You're Not Drinking
What happens when you stop drinking and everyone around you has feelings about it
Jan 23
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Ashley Kelsch
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When the Soul Says, “Bitch, Wake Up.”
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Bras, Brain Rot, and the Internet Outrage Machine
In 48 hours: Liz Gilbert hot takes, death videos, and Jimmy Kimmel canceled. The internet rewards outrage; all I get is cognitive dissonance and brain…
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How a simple business principle became my guide to finding calm in the crazy
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Midlife and the ‘I Can’t Believe This Is My Life’ Moment
From shame and “shoulds” to momentum and meaning: making midlife count.
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Stress Training for Midlife: When Starting Over Isn't an Option
Midlife stress is layered: aging parents, teens, partners, money, health and no option to burn it all down & start over. The “fuck it, I’m out” approach…
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When “doing the work” in a relationship starts to feel like you’re the one getting worked.
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Bras, Brain Rot, and the Internet Outrage Machine
In 48 hours: Liz Gilbert hot takes, death videos, and Jimmy Kimmel canceled. The internet rewards outrage; all I get is cognitive dissonance and brain…
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Stress Training for Midlife: When Starting Over Isn't an Option
Midlife stress is layered: aging parents, teens, partners, money, health and no option to burn it all down & start over. The “fuck it, I’m out” approach…
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Is What You’re Getting Worth Grieving What You’re Not?
When “doing the work” in a relationship starts to feel like you’re the one getting worked.
Aug 8, 2025
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The Midlife Move: No Sudden Movements
And How Anne Lamott’s Advice to “Never Give Up” Is More Important Than Ever
Jun 30, 2025
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Because here's the truth: we're not aging out of anything that matters—we're aging into who we were always meant to be.
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'I heard everything you said,' I said as I walked alongside my friend.
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On mortality, grey hair, and the freedom that comes from finally not giving a fuck
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Unfucking Midlife: The Strength in Unfolding
Because some parts of us don't need fixing, they just need space.
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When the Soul Says, “Bitch, Wake Up.”
Marie-Louise von Franz wrote, “Only when the eternal girl dies can the woman be born.” I think my body got the memo before I did.
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Ashley Kelsch
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What happens when you finally stop asking "Is this it?" and start asking "How can I live a life that feels full and turned on?"
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Her inability to articulate what she wanted and the clumsy way she navigated her desires felt uncomfortably familiar. I reminded of a former version of…
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How many f*cks can a frame take before it breaks? Are furniture makers and manufacturers taking this into consideration?
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Mind-Blowing Female Pleasure: Why Women Are Getting Soaked Without Traditional Sex
'I may have a small dick, but I've got 10 fingers that can do what a dick will never do' — and that's exactly how I discovered the pleasure most women…
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I was out to dinner with friends when I felt my crown come loose and fall out. As if that wasn't awkward enough, a man I'd harbored a crush on for years…
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