Hargun’s Substack | Hargun Kaur Sachdev | Substack

Single at 29 is not neutral in this country

Apparently, I am socially deviant now

Feb 17 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

The girl who got ghosted by her Anger

Emotional house rule #2: I don’t abandon my anger anymore

Feb 5 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

You're mentally disturbed because you're single

“You’re mentally disturbed because you’re single.”

Jan 23 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

At 18, I wanted to legally change my name

On learning to live with my name

Jan 15 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Repair work is not intimacy

Emotional house rule #1 for living differently in 2026 and beyond

Jan 10 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Recent posts

Things 2025 did to me—without my consent

Looking back at a year (and what it does to you) when you stop negotiating with reality

Dec 22, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Sab theek ho jayega, nahi toh khatam ho jayega

Surviving yet another December without the pressure to pretend or improve

Dec 6, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Oh, so this is me now

On being astonished by who we’re still becoming, and grateful for who we’ve been

Nov 24, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

How to show up when someone tells you something scary

A guide to responding to fear without turning it into a lecture or making it worse

Nov 17, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Indian joint family: The myth of togetherness

I'm not moving in with your parents and that's not rebellion

Oct 29, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Emotional availability: Great for essays, terrible for dating

Unpacking the science (and poetry) of what it really means to be emotionally available

Oct 10, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Why height still decides who we date

Confessions of a tall girl who broke her own rule and fell for someone 5’4

Sep 19, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Why buying myself flowers makes me sad sometimes

And why I will still keep doing it

Sep 12, 2025 • Hargun Kaur Sachdev

Come, rest your heart with me. I write essays on love, adulting, and being soft in a hard world

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