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A Few Fun Things
A picture of the newest member of our family, the big improvement we're making at home, and the coolest kitchen item I've ever seen
Feb 14
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To Douche or Not to Douche?
How we navigate it in our sex life, and the results from a recent poll on where you guys stand with this
Feb 11
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A Few Fun Things
The change we made to our bedroom, the funny thing we did for mom's birthday celebration, and behind the scenes of Heated Rivalry
Feb 6
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Hairy or Shaved? Let’s Talk About Armpits
For many, men's armpits have always been a fetish of some sort. Here's where we (and where do you?) land on the shaved vs. hairy debate
Feb 4
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A Few Fun Things
Our new nephew (with a very familiar name ;), my mom's 70th birthday, and a favorite show returns
Jan 31
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Video Q&A: What You’ve Always Wanted to Know (But We’ve Never Shared Until Now)
Dec 3, 2024
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How Often We're Able to Be Intimate and 20 Other Questions on Life, Sex, and Love
Oct 23, 2024
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How We Keep the Spark Alive in Our Marriage
Jul 9, 2024
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How Receiving a Jock Strap in the Mail Spiced Things Up in the Bedroom
Dec 5, 2023
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Marriage & Relationships
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The Most Intimate Time of Day With My Husband
This took me by complete surprise
Jan 22
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The Myth of the Perfect Couple: What Gay Instagram Doesn’t Show
We don’t always agree. In fact, we disagree on quite a lot. Here’s what that really looks like behind the highlight reel.
Nov 4, 2025
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Who's Kinkier in Bed, and 20 Other Questions on Life, Sex, and Love
Including if we’re religious, whether we prefer morning or night sex, what annoys us about each other, and how we keep it spicy
Oct 1, 2025
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Could You Live in the Same Place Your Whole Life?
What happens when the house you grew up in becomes the house you raise your kids in? The magic (and the questions) of staying where you started.
Jan 28
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A (Growing) List of Insecurities
10 things I can't believe I'm sharing (omg) and what are some of yours?!
Jan 15
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Goodbye 2025!
Our final newsletter of the year! Taking a look back, month by month, at the year that was
Dec 31, 2025
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